Hi everyone. I am Dani, better known as the DezineDiva. I am a 31 year old mother of a precocious 6yo daughter named Nataliya (who has Locs, will post on those later :) and a 3 day old angel baby named Hillkiah. I have been married 8 years, and I just recently relocated from Cairo Egypt, back to my hometown of Manchester, CT. I am a New England girl at heart. I call myself ;) DezineDiva because I have been designing since I was 9 years old. I’ve worked as a designer in the Industry in NYC and LA, and I had my own bridal fashion line up until the loss of my son last year in August. I took a step back to evaluate my life; I’ve made mistakes, rash decisions, and I’m working on righting my wrongs, and accepting myself.
Part of that journey to self acceptance is recognizing my dependency on wigs and weaves was a crutch, plain and simple. I grew up not understanding my hair, and as a result it’s never been longer than about shoulder length in the back. I’ve done the relaxer, the texturizer, the natural under wigs, the braids, the twists, the faux dreadlocks. I have tried Keratin treatments and Henna. Long story short the only thing that has truly worked for me is TLC, co-washing and patience.
I love to experiment with my hair. This has perhaps been the issue, since for the longest time, you wouldn’t see me with the same hairstyle moare than once in a month (for up to a week or two at a time). Even if I bought a wig, I would curl and style that bad boy. I honestly love hair. Long hair, short hair, straight hair, nappy curly frizzy hair. But when it came to MY hair, I only wanted that long “good” hair. I never actually called any hair “good” hair but I noticed people treated me better (probably because I displayed more confidence) when I wore it straight or softly curled.
But I was NEVER happy. Wigs and weaves can be excellent protective styles, but I was not caring for my real hair as I should have. I get lazy y’all. Not even gonna lie. I get all ambitious with a hair regimen, I can whip up some amazing natural oils, hair sprays, conditioners, etc. But then I end up not sticking to them.
So finally, for the first time in hmmm, 10 years I wore my REAL hair to church. This was last week Sunday. Actually I wore my real hair a few times more in 2007 following the birth of my daughter but it was first a bantu knot out done wrong (they came out so tight and small and NOT soft) and then I had a Dominican blow out where she cut FOUR hard earned inches (my hair had been super long and thick FOR ME and after that little trip it was breaking off and thinned). Well last Sunday, I wore my true texture with no chemicals. I did another Bantu knot out, it had a slightly Marilyn Monroe feel to it at first, but after sweating and shouting at church :) it got shrunken and less defined. But I strutted around the grocery store after church and felt this sense of IDK, pride. Pride that I was FINALLY read to be me. To be okay not to have long swinging Remi lengths or a hot freaking wig scratching me all day. Proud to know that I am beautiful and DO NOT NEED someone else’s hair or factory created strands to feel that way.
I have a nice face. Nice lips, cute nose. Nice eyes. Nice skin. And now I feel like I have gorgeous thick hair. My texture is kind of 3c in back, maybe 4a/4c in the top/crown area. I dont really like to do the hair-typing thing too tough though, cus all over my head the curls and naps are different. I notice some products are great with my hair, and some are… meh… But I am happy to experiment and proud to say I am going to keep it real. Yeah i might braid it up, but I will not waste another dollar on a wig. I got one right now, called “Carmen” which I ordered in Egypt but the price was too much to send from the States. I tried it on and HATED IT. This girl used to be my homey y’all. My old standby. But she looked SO fake and SO not who I am and want to be.
Anyway, I will post more about myself and my hair later but this is just an intro. Thanks for reading! Oh and PS. I will try to keep my posts short, but I used to (and still want to be) a writer, so I can be long winded. Hope you like to read!
Love and hugs